cator develop a degree of uncertainty-tolerance. For unless he does, he closes himself to new information that is invaluable in goal-seeking behavior.
Perhaps it has never occurred to you that every time we use words we are asking for change. We use words because we want something. We want something different. We are asking for change, but a particular kind of change. No other kind of change will do as well. If we expect the unexpected, the most natural thing in the world is to try to anticipate the kind of change that is likely to occur. We make every effort to predict the consequences of the existent state of affairs. But we are aware, also, that when the unpredicted occurs this is the source of new information which we may use profitably in the interest of purpose. We are alert and ready. And flexible. We adjust. This, of course, increases our control of the changing scene. And we are more intelligently prepared to mold change to our interests.
Korzybski says Date everythingin your thinking-feeling-doing. Let your language system and your nervous system conform, in this respect, with the structure of all of nature.
This will make room for transformations in time.
This should develop your uncertainty-tolerance.
This should sharpen your efforts to predict.
And this should help you to use words to control and direct change, expected and not expected, in the interest of your purposes.
But this basic assumption of process, and the semantic device of dating that conforms with it, will help us, also, in our relationships with others. Change calls for a fresh look. It calls for the question What's different about this human being today from yesterday?